OPINION: LOVE AND ACADEMICS

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By Onyinyechi Obike

Humans are inherently social beings who naturally crave companionship, though not limited to romantic companionship. While this need for connection isn’t limited to relationships with other people, pets and objects can also fill this role. It is inevitable to long for affection and emotional connection.

These desires are driven by hormones present in individuals. Hormones are chemical substances produced by tissues and transported through the bloodstream to induce physiological effects. They relay messages across different organs in the body and influence numerous bodily functions and emotions.

The presence of hormones in the body influences sexual reproduction activities. Testosterone in males and estrogen in females. These two hormones foster sexual and physical attraction between the sexes, creating a desire for companionship and intimate relationships.

The brain releases these hormones in response to external stimuli, such as meeting a potential partner or encountering someone who catches one’s fancy. Alongside testosterone and estrogen, other hormones like oxytocin, which drives physical contact, and dopamine, which induces pleasure and happiness are involved. This complex interplay contributes to the chemistry that connects two people affectionately, often described as “falling in love”.

In developing teenagers and young adults, a significant production of these chemical substances occurs. Various factors contribute to this surge, with puberty and biological structuring towards reproduction being predominant. As most undergraduates fall within these age ranges, their involvement in romantic relationships is quite understandable and often considered a natural part of growing up.

However natural these reasons may be, the consequences can be detrimental to academic expectations in a university setting. Balancing academic responsibilities with the demands of a romantic relationship can be challenging and may lead to negative outcomes if not managed properly.

Research by Myers(2010) highlights the benefits of romantic relationships in enhancing feelings of acceptance and worth. Similarly, Campbell and Oliver(1994) noted the positive effects of belonging and fulfillment these relationships bring. Relationships promote a healthy atmosphere for young people to experience love, validation, and emotional support.

Nevertheless, Myers(2010) also found that relationships play a significant role in the lives of university students, consuming substantial time and energy. Mehl and Pennebaker (2003) stated, “The average college student spends about 4 hours a day thinking about relationships, and only about 2.5 hours a day thinking about academics”. They also discussed the contribution of relationships to increased levels of stress and depression. Further research by undergraduates at the University of Cebu, Philippines, attests to a decline in academic grades due to time and motivation diverted towards partners rather than studies.

This underscores the need to prioritize academic responsibilities over romantic relationships in university. The intense focus required for academic success often leaves little room for the demands of maintaining a romantic relationship, which can be both time-consuming and emotionally draining.

Balancing the demands of being an undergraduate; attending classes, completing assignments, submitting paperwork and projects, and participating in extracurricular activities, with commitments to a partner often means compromising on academic performance. The pressures of academic life are already significant, and adding the complexities of a relationship can sometimes be overwhelming.

At the University of Ibadan, the female hostels reportedly experience more visits from male counterparts than the lecture theaters. This trend, although common, is concerning given the primary purpose of university attendance is to gain meaningful education and enlightenment. The time spent on social visits could otherwise be used for study and academic enrichment.

Time is a crucial resource that must be spent wisely and productively. Conversations, though seemingly trivial, consume a significant part of daily life. When such conversations are focused on inconsequential matters between partners, they detract from the attention needed for innovation and creativity. Effective time management is essential for academic success, and distractions from romantic relationships can hinder this.

Emotional involvement is another key aspect to consider. Not all romantic relationships work out, and breakups can lead to depression and heartbreak, disrupting academic activities. Some cases result in a significant decline in CGPA, truancy, dropping out, or even suicide. Misunderstandings and quarrels can also affect emotional stability, leading to continuous distractions and inadequate focus on studies. Given the University of Ibadan’s motto, “Recte Sapere Fons” (For Knowledge and Sound Judgment), how can one be expected to think straight and draw from the fountain of knowledge under such stress?

In light of these considerations, it is advisable for undergraduates to deprioritize romantic relationships and focus on problem-solving and innovation, building themselves up to have a greater impact on society. Concentrating on academic and personal development can provide a solid foundation for future success and fulfillment.

However, maintaining a balance is also possible for those who still desire relationships. Investing the majority of their time in studying while maintaining a relationship can help achieve educational goals while benefiting from the comfort and support of a partner. Setting clear boundaries and prioritizing academics can allow students to enjoy the best of both worlds.

By focusing on their studies and managing their time effectively, students can build a strong academic record and still enjoy the emotional support and companionship of a romantic relationship. This balanced approach can lead to both academic success and personal fulfillment, preparing students for a bright and promising future.